Ars Technic’s Mary Kay writes: “You’re NOT allowed to be at a wedding banquet.
You’re not permitted to have an after-party.
You are NOT allowed for a wedding party.”
Ars Technically, Mary Kay’s point is made: weddings should be reserved for the couple who is the actual couple, and guests are invited only to the party, and not to their family.
But this isn’t true.
Mary Kay is wrong.
If you’re married and you want to go to a wedding, you should invite your family.
That means that the party is the party.
This is not a “marriage party,” but a celebration of your love and commitment.
You can’t do anything about the party if you don’t invite your spouse, even if you’re the person in the wedding reception.
And if you go to the wedding, that’s the wedding.
That’s what you do.
That is what wedding parties are.
So what’s the big deal about wedding parties?
A wedding is a party, not a wedding.
A wedding banquet is not the same thing as a wedding wedding banquet—it’s just a different event.
In other words, you’re not invited to a party for the wedding unless you go with the wedding party.
And as a matter of fact, a wedding is more important than a wedding buffet, and you shouldn’t be invited to an event if you are not a member of the wedding family.
Mary’s point was clear, and she wasn’t wrong.
So why is Mary Kay wrong?
Well, Mary’s article, entitled “You Are NOT allowed a Wedding Party,” is really the first time in Ars Technick history that we’ve seen a journalist who says that wedding parties should be “for the sake [of] your marriage,” rather than “for [your] wedding.”
We don’t know why Mary is so convinced that a wedding should be held at a church.
But we do know that her argument for this is so simple and direct that we can only assume that she is not merely misinformed, but completely uninformed.
We can only guess why Mary Kay might believe that a church wedding is not for the “sake” of her marriage, but instead for the purpose of the marriage itself.
We do know, however, that Mary Kay has a long history of defending “traditional” marriage.
For example, Mary has called out the Church for “trying to push” the traditional definition of marriage in its favor.
For instance, in 2012, she wrote that “we live in a world where we can’t get a marriage license for same-sex couples because of the way we define marriage.
I guess we can call that a religious belief.”
In 2013, she explained that “a religious wedding should only be held for the purposes of marriage.”
In 2015, she defended the “marriage ceremony” at her wedding, and defended her refusal to allow her husband to perform the wedding ceremony in an open setting, by arguing that it was against her religious beliefs to allow a wedding to be held “for any purpose.”
(We can imagine that Mary might not be alone in her belief that a marriage party is a “religious wedding,” but we’re not talking about her here.)
Mary also made the same argument in 2016, when she argued that “any wedding celebration that does not include the wedding vows is not ‘traditional,'” even though the phrase “for marriage” does not appear in the Bible.
And in 2015, Mary wrote that a party held at the wedding would be “not the same as a marriage celebration.”
(If Mary had actually been referring to a marriage banquet, she would have referred to the marriage banquet.
But she didn’t.)
In all these cases, Mary is defending a particular interpretation of “traditional.”
If the church was arguing that “traditional marriage” is the only “true” definition of “marriage,” and that it should be protected by the law, then why are Mary Kay and others arguing that a celebration that doesn’t include the vows should be allowed?
We’ve already seen that a couple’s wedding party should be their wedding party, but there is no legal right to exclude them from the wedding celebration.
So how is MaryKay defending “a traditional wedding”?
By saying that a “traditional wedding” is “not allowed” because it is “for a religious wedding.”
Here is Mary’s definition of a “souvenir” in the Marriage & Family Code of Idaho: “A wedding or celebration that is not allowed because it’s not a ‘marriage’ or because it doesn’t conform to the laws of the state.”
The definition of wedding is clear: it’s the “party” in a wedding ceremony.
But “party in a marriage” includes the “wedding guests” as well as “wedded couples.” And “weds